WHEN her alarm goes off at 6am, there’s no hitting the snooze button for Bronte Rawlingson – she’s got things to do.
While many might despair at their beauty sleep coming to an abrupt halt, Bronte is dreaming of what she can whip up her husband for breakfast.
Making hubby Phil, 35, happy is all she’s wanted to do since she met him at the beach aged 16 and she says it’s “what he deserves”.
Now 29 and living in Frinton, doting wife and mum-of-three Bronte lives a life with more than just a nod to that of a traditional housewife and it’s exactly how she likes it.
Having dropped out of private school in the name of love and having a deeply-run desire to become a teenage mum, which she became at 19, she’s now living the life she could only have dreamt of more than a decade ago, and has no interest in a career getting in the way of that.
“I had a stay-at-home mum myself. If I was ill she would be there to tuck me up under the duvet and make me some soup. I’ve always known I wanted to replicate that for my children,” explained Bronte.
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“Once I met Phil this solidified how I wanted my life to go. I think it’s just ancient, primal instinct in a traditional feminine woman to want to nurture and love those you care for.
“Phil is the opposite end of the scale, he’s very masculine, a provider and a protector so it balances everything out. Besides, he probably wouldn’t eat breakfast if I didn’t make it for him.”
Of course, life didn’t begin with her rushing to the kitchen to prepare breakfast for Phil and their children, Amelia, nine, Fenella, six, and Theodore, 18 months.
Bronte’s parents dreamt of a long, rich and successful career for their daughter and paid eye-watering fees at a private school in Ipswich to ensure this happened.
But, the 29-year-old just didn’t see things the same way.
“I felt oppressed to go and chase a career, to go to university, and only once I’ve done that would I be allowed to have a family,” she said.
“There wasn’t a great deal of conversation about it, I knew I just had to do what was right for me, so I dropped out. I wasn’t really speaking with my parents after that as they didn’t know how to deal with the situation, it was very painful for them.
“It was an all-girls private school and it felt anti-male. Everything taught was a competition against men, we had to saturate male environments, had to compete with them in everything.
“There was no room for being girly or wanting anything traditional. I’m very stubborn and I wanted to go against the grain.
“It was hard to adapt after leaving though, I’d gone from a manic home life with my siblings to suddenly almost complete silence. This made me even more eager to fill the quiet with children and when I did fall pregnant at 18 I felt complete.”
Bronte explained her views on life have always been met with hostility by radical feminists who can’t get their heads around her life.
It’s “none of their business” anyway, she explains.
“I think a lot of people are using feminism as a gift wrap for judging other women and being anti-male,” she added.
“Feminism should be a celebration of women and the fact they do have choice. I feel I’m being discriminated against and seen as weak for doing what I want to do. How is that equality?
“I’m not pushing my views on my children, I teach them to live life however they can be happy.
“I teach the girls to sew and cook as these traditional skills are still important and, when he’s old enough, Theo will be taught too.
“I tell my girls they deserve a man who will worship them and my son likewise.
“We’ve reached a point now where to be masculine is a bad thing and to be feminine is worse still.
“No-one really knows where they fit in the world right now and if people could surrender to the traditional male and female roles the world would be a happier place.
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